A WOMAN'S LOVE

 YOU DEY WHINE A WOMAN'S LOVE?

You know when a woman loves for no reason?

Not because of what you bought.

Not because of what you give.

Not because of what you can offer her.

She just loves you.

She loves the person.

She loves herself with that person.

She loves the reflection of herself

that she sees when she's with them.

And there is something incredibly sweet about that.

Something almost innocent.

Because not everyone gets to experience it.

I tell you for free-

if a woman loves you,

you gonna know.

No stress ooo.

We ain't called emotional

or sentimental

for nothing.

Even when those words have sometimes been thrown at us

like insults,

like being emotional means being irrational,

like sentiment makes a woman weak.

But we are.

We feel.

Deeply.

And why do you think a woman can be benefiting absolutely nothing from a man—

nothing concrete,

nothing abstract-

and still stay?

Still be loyal?

Still be rooted?

Still choose that person

when there is no obvious reward attached to it?

You dey whine a woman's love?

No.

When a woman really loves,

sometimes the love itself becomes the reward.

The presence.

The connection.

The way she feels around you.

The way she sees herself through your eyes.

The version of herself she gets to be

when she is with you.

I have loved this way.

And even after the fall,

they never really got over it.

Because some kinds of love don't disappear

just because the relationship does.

They leave fingerprints.

They change you.

They become memories you carry

long after the person has become a stranger.

But,

be careful.

Because loving like this

can be beautiful

and still be dangerous.

You can love someone so deeply

that you forget to ask

whether they are loving you back

in a way that is good for you.

You can become so rooted

that you mistake staying

for strength.

You can give and give and give

until there is nothing left

but exhaustion.

So love.

Please, love.

Love deeply.

Love honestly.

Love without keeping a spreadsheet

of what you've given and what you've received.

But love yourself first.

Because you need to know

when love is still love-

and when it is time

to walk out.

Don't lose yourself

just because you found someone

you loved enough to stay for.

You can love someone

with your whole heart

and still choose yourself

with what remains.

And maybe that's the real beauty

of a woman's love-

not that she can stay forever,

but that she can love deeply

without forgetting

that she belongs to herself too.

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Smiles.. its worth experiencing